“The Opposite of Loneliness” by Marina Keegan : Review

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

“The Opposite of Loneliness” is a collection of short stories, interviews, and opinion pieces written by Marina Keegan. Man…that is such a bland, run-of-the-mill description for what is genuinely one of the best books I’ve read.

I go pretty easy on the books I review and have given a lot of 4/5 and 5/5 ratings in the short time I’ve been posting reviews here. So much so, I’ve copped some (completely tongue-in-cheek) flak from my boyfriend about my largely defunct rating system. What can I say? I genuinely like a lot of different books and feel they deserve great ratings!

And although I maintain that, I began to see that maybe my tendency to (honestly) generously rate books is letting me down. Because when I finished “The Opposite of Loneliness”, I didn’t feel like 5 stars was enough. I honestly, truly, completely loved this book. I loved reading Keegan’s words and gaining an insight into her thought processes and experiences. I hadn’t been reading for very long before I realised that I felt a weird mixture of awe, admiration, and jealousy towards Keegan. I wanted to be her friend, but also to be her. But that, for more than the usual reasons, can’t happen.

Five days after graduating magna cum laude (with great honour) from Yale University, Keegan was killed in a car accident. Her parents and one of her university professors worked to compile some of her best work, mostly written while she was studying at Yale, and released it posthumously. There is obviously a sense of great sadness underlying the book because of this surrounding context, so if you’re not comfortable with that then maybe don’t read it. Actually, no, forget that. You need to power through and still read this book because it is brilliant.

Keegan’s writing style flows elegantly and easily. She was succinct but managed to strike that balance of still carrying incredibly vivid detail. Even when describing her first car, a hand-me-down from her grandmother, Keegan wrote eloquently, connecting emotions to a topic deemed pretty darn ordinary by most:

“I talked a lot in my car. Thousands of words and songs and swears are absorbed in its fabric, just like the orange juice I spilled on my way to the dentist. It knows what happened when Allie went to Puerto Rico, understands the difference between the way I look at Nick and the way I look at Adam, and remembers the first time I experimented with talking to myself.”

Or that time she saw a mass of beached whales and reflected on why people are so keen to help some but not all:

“I worry sometimes that humans are afraid of helping humans. There’s less risk associated with animals, less fear of failure, fear of getting too involved. In war movies, a thousand soldiers die gruesomely, but when the horse is shot, the audience is heartbroken. It’s the My Dog Skip effect. The Homeward Bound syndrome.”

Without a doubt, the worst thing about reading “The Opposite of Loneliness” is the horrific, gut-wrenching irony. Keegan writes with such pain-staking precision about the unnecessary pressure young people place on themselves to get things done and done perfectly when, really, they have their whole lives to achieve the things they want to:

“We have these impossibly high standards and we’ll probably never live up to our perfect fantasies of our future selves. But I feel like that’s okay. We’re so young. We’re so young. We’re twenty-two years old. We have so much time.”

Somehow, Keegan managed to perfectly capture a lot of thoughts I (perhaps selfishly?) believed had only crossed my mind. To find out that someone on the other side of the world had felt the exact same soul-crushing anxiety about the future, and the intense desire to make the world a better place, was equal measures comforting and heartbreaking because that someone isn’t around anymore. But, it becomes clear from the way she writes and from the foreword written by her professor, Keegan was a force to be reckoned with when it came to the things she cared about. It is true that the fact that the world has lost such a passionate and talented soul is awful and makes me ache. But it is also true that, through this book, her passions and talents can continue to live and go on to inspire others, even someone on the other side of the world.

Reading “The Opposite of Loneliness” made me want to read more books, to learn more about everything, to talk to more people, to find out their stories, and to have more experiences. In short, it was probably the most inspiring book I’ve read. Please read it.


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Jacquie is a 20-something maker and writer from Melbourne. She enjoys eating virtually anything that is labelled salted caramel and, contrary to popular belief, has forgotten how to ride a bike. She feels ambivalent about writing in the third person but thought it might be fun. It was.


  1. Lauren Castillo

    Sounds great! I will have a read of it next 🙂


  2. birdandfox

    Yes! Do! Highly recommended. Thanks for stopping past, Lauren 🙂


  3. Isabel

    Wow, Jacquie. This is a wonderful review about a book I've never even heard of, but you make me feel that I must read it. I might ask my Mum to bring a copy with her when she comes to China later this month. Thank you for recommending and reviewing it! By the way, have you ever read any Joan Didion? x ps I like your generous star review system even if your boyfriend bags you for it…what's wrong with genuinely loving lots of different books? Much more fun than being overly cynical like lots of reviewers.


  4. Alicesdesk

    Amazing – I keep seeing this on the bookshop shelves and not feeling too sure about it because I know that she died – but your review has made me want to read it. After all – she did achieve a lot before she died – she just didn't realise it or live long enough to see the great success. Thanks for posting!


  5. birdandfox

    Oh, good! I'm glad that comes across because I really do desperately want to hand out a copy to everyone I know. Loved it so much.

    I haven't read anything by Joan Didion, no. Would you recommend?

    Haha thanks Isabel! I think he was just poking fun at me because if you rate everything 4/5 or 5/5, it makes it hard to distinguish between bad, okay, good, great, and fantastic books – because presumably they're not all great and fantastic, which is true. I do think I just like a wide range of books and I'm fairly accommodating. I like a lot of different writing styles, and settings, and characters, so that's probably why I think a lot of books are good!

    Thanks so much for stopping past and I'm glad you liked the review 🙂 Hope you're well! x


  6. birdandfox

    That's so great to hear, Alice, thank you! I definitely felt sad reading the book at times because it was so clear that she had buckets of talent and it honestly just really sucks that she was taken so early. But the book is a fantastic testament to her and I'm very grateful her family decided to publish it.

    Thank you for dropping by and commenting. I'm glad you liked the review 🙂 x


  7. Dawn Rieniets

    This sounds like a wonderful book- I'm going to order it on my kindle now. Love a good collection of stories.


  8. birdandfox

    Yes, Dawn, do it! Highly recommend it. Thanks for stopping past, lovely!


  9. Sarah Cox

    I have just recently become obsessed with the personal essay genre, so I shall definitely look for this one, even though the context made me shed a little tear. Thank you so much for sharing!


  10. birdandfox

    It is well worth it, Sarah! I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. And no problem – I love sharing thoughts on books 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!


  11. Naomi Bulger

    Wow. It's so rare that I'll actually go out and buy a book after reading a review, but I am ABSOLUTELY going shopping for this book. I can't wait to read it, after your descriptions. Thank you!


  12. birdandfox

    Bingo! That's exactly what I wanted people to feel, Naomi! I'm so glad I was able to express it properly. I'm glad you're exciting for the book – I hope you do buy it and enjoy it as much as I did. Thanks for stopping past x


  13. Isabel

    I would highly recommend Slouching Towards Bethlehem which is a book of short pieces by Joan Didion. And also The Year of Magical Thinking.


  14. Dawn Rieniets

    I'm reading it now. The intro made me cry. <3


  15. birdandfox

    I teared up quite a few times myself, Dawn! I hope you're enjoying it. Thanks for stopping by 🙂


  16. Stephanie

    Thank you for this review and recommendation. I will definitely read this!


    1. birdandfox

      Fantastic! I’m so happy to hear that people plan on reading this book after my review. I have actually just bought this book to give to one of my friends for her birthday – I really want to spread it around! I hope you enjoy it. Thanks for your comment, Stephanie 🙂


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